Remember as a child you are told how pretty, smart and fantastic you are but then when you start to grow up you learn it is not ok to think you are so fabulous so you learn to hate yourself and shame yourself and make fun of yourself only to get into adulthood and learn it is ok to like, daresay, love yourself so then we have to spend the next 10 years of our adult life learning to like who we are and share our real selves with the world?
I have the hope to help my girls through this silly hardship. I have no idea how I will do it but I want to try.
Right now Eva is in the super cute stage where everything she does is absolutely darling and everyone ooos and ahhs over her. This super cute stage is partly so super cute because she is innocent to it and doesn't ham it up when people give her compliments. One day this will be over and it will be sad but for now it is so fun.
We went to a wedding a couple months ago and Eva had to wear her very fancy dress and fancy necklace and we curled her hair.
When people told her how pretty she looked she said,"I know!" but not in a snobby way, but in an "I am having so much fun" way. I want her to always feel this way. I want her to know it is OK to think you look good and to like who you are. Not only is it OK but you will have a healthier happier life if you are able to like and enjoy yourself. I think the key to this is to be aware that you are no better than anyone else and that you are not, and don't have to be, the best looking, smartest or funniest in the room. If you are happy and satisfied with who you are than it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or looks like.
Here's a recent, personal example. I was working at Nordstrom the other day and they had some hair stylists there so I had one of them do a suicide roll for me. See pictures below:
Me twitterpated with my hair.
It is a bit messy since this was the end of the day.
I absolutely loved it and plan on doing it often to my hair. But one young makeup artist I was working with said, "Oh did you get your hair done? (clearly I had) You have a poof on the top of your head." That was it. In woman code that means,"I don't have anything nice to say about your hair so I will just make a statement about it since I want to let you know that I don't like it and think it looks horrible." I know what you are thinking, "Well you were at Nordstrom."
I just blew it off and thought,"Well, I love it".
My point?
It's OK to be in love with yourself.
It's not OK to think you are the only one who exists or who is important.
It's OK to like your like's and stand by your opinions.
It's not OK to think that people are stupid who don't share your like's and opinions.
It's OK to think you are pretty amashzing.
It's not OK to think no one else is amashzing.
It's also not OK to think "You are great but I am better."
So let's enjoy ourselves as well as enjoying what others have to offer.
OK got it? Good.
Thanks to Michelle for letting me know about a great tutorial on Youtube about how to do a suicide roll. Here it is in case you want one too.
And send me a picture if you do it.
2 comments:
I love the suicide roll- it is beyond gorgeous.
And- have you read this article?
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-bloom/how-to-talk-to-little-gir_b_882510.html?ref=fb&src=sp%22
I think it's great. I am always telling little people how cute they are... because they are! But I've started asking what they're reading and what their favorite colors are and how school is. Maybe this can help with self esteem later...
I love your Mary Poppins post. I haven't seen it in years and was never a huge fan in my childhood. Maybe I need to watch it again. :) Also, I love the suicide roll. And little Eva is beautiful and I'm glad she feels beautiful.
Post a Comment